New Home Movie: “Sling Out Loud”

Dirk and I filmed this last week when he was out here in Boston. It felt so good and was SO much fun. Be sure to check out our other videos on Mancast!

Adversity, Advocacy, and Affirmation

It’s Monday, and as most of us — myself included — head back to work, I thought it would be fitting to talk about some adversity I once faced on the job. No, not at Titan… at my day job. Yes, I have one, and yes, they know about the “other” work I do. Well, they do now.

Porn is not my full-time job. I hold a bachelor’s degree in computer science and have worked as a software developer at the same large Boston company for the last nineteen years. Porn is more like a hobby for me; it’s an opportunity to do something new and exciting and fun, give me a little extra spending money, and… oh yeah… have sex with some of the hottest guys on the planet.

I filmed my first scene with Titan in August of 2011. Because post-production takes several months, there was a bit of a buffer before anyone knew I’d started working in porn; that scene — with Hunter Marx in Surveillance — wasn’t released until January of the following year. My first public appearance was at the Folsom Street Fair in September 2011; even then, none of my scenes had come out yet, plus that was out in California; I had not “come out” as a porn actor in Boston yet. All that changed on Saturday, December 17, though, when I made my first official hometown appearance as one of the hosts of the Manhunt X tour at Boston’s House of Blues. It was an amazing experience; everyone was really supportive — friends and strangers alike — and I had a fantastic time.

The following Monday, though, I arrived at work to find the following email waiting in my inbox (I’ve changed the names in this post and removed any specific references to my employer, by the way, due to confidentiality concerns):

My name is Steve Richardson and I work in the Customer Affairs department. My office received a message that I wanted to share with you. Would it be possible to stop by my office so we can talk briefly? Let me know what a good time might be for you.

“Oh shit,” I thought nervously. “Why does Customer Affairs want to see me? I don’t even have any direct contact with clients. Could it be…?”

When I entered the Customer Affairs office later that afternoon, I was greeted warmly by Mr. Richardson, an upbeat gentleman with a brightly-colored shirt and a firm, friendly handshake. I had a seat in his office and asked him what was going on. Rather matter-of-factly he said, “I think the easiest thing to do is just show you.” Then he handed me a printout. It read:

To: Stephen Richardson, Office of Customer Affairs
From: Concerned Customer
Sent: Sunday, December 18, 2011 3:01 PM
Subject: Unacceptable Staff Behaviour

To Whom It May Concern:

It is absolutely appalling that your organization would hire and employee an individual who openly participates and promotes such a despicable act as adult pornography. Tolerance of diversity and non-discrimination of an individual’s race, sex, religion, political affiliations, and sexual orientations are to be expected but to knowingly employee such an perverse individual that engages in obscene and lewd behavior is reprehensible.

In recent times, individuals have been castigated for sexual misconduct and or behaviour that is not to be associated with an organisation’s philosophy. You should be more diligent in knowing what behaviours could be potentially damaging to its credibility and overall image. Patrons would be hesitant, philanthropists would be reluctant, media would be unforgiving, and staff would be stigmatized through association.

Jesse Jackman (performing with TitanMen) may have his own reasons for participating in such salacious activities but we hold you to a much higher standard and hope that a resolution can be achieved that does not adversely affect the organisation.

– Concerned Customer

Grammatical errors notwithstanding, I immediately felt nervous. What would my company’s response be? I’d researched our code of conduct thoroughly, and was almost certain that I was well within my rights as long as working in porn didn’t interfere with my day-to-day responsibilities. Almost certain. But not absolutely certain. Was I about to be reprimanded… or even fired?

I immediately told Mr. Richardson — Steve — that the message’s statements about working with Titan were true, and commented that whoever wrote the complaint certainly seemed to have very strong opinions. I also told him that I had researched my decision to work with Titan very carefully and was convinced I was not in violation of any corporate policies.

The first words out of Steve’s mouth? “I just want you to know that we think this is absolute bullshit.”

I had never been more proud to be an employee of my company.

Steve was very understanding and reassured me that I’d done nothing wrong, and that the organization was behind me 100%. He also recognized the sensitivity of the matter and its potential for stigmatization, and as such he had contacted me directly, without first contacting my immediate supervisor (which is otherwise standard practice). The matter would be kept sealed. He was more concerned for my safety than anything else… he wondered if the complainant might have some sort of grudge against me, even though I don’t know why anyone would. Steve even offered the support of Customer Affairs to act as an advocate on my behalf should this type of harassment recur. Clearly, my company was on my side.

Even though I’ve never received another complaint and haven’t heard from Customer Affairs in the ten months since then, I’ve always been curious… who is “Concerned Customer” and what does he or she have against me, or against porn? I also sometimes wonder if something like this will happen again… but if it does, now I know that it’ll lack teeth, because I know for sure where I stand with my company. There’s no reason to be nervous anymore.

The office scene from TitanMen’s Fast Friends

A dog’s life

Today’s a bittersweet day for me; on this date 15 years ago I met my best friend. I brought Zack home from the Animal Rescue League on October 10, 1997… and my life would never be the same. For the next 14 years he was constantly by my side… a smart, loyal, affectionate, amazing companion. I lost him a little over a year ago after a wonderful decade-and-a-half together. Miss you, buddy.

Live from the set…


I’ve got some very cool news! Titan’s gonna start letting me live blogging from the set! From now on, when I’m filming I’ll be posting updates and pics as the action happens. (I’ll be doing it during breaks, of course. Wouldn’t want to get lube on my iPhone.)

The above pics represent a taste of what you can expect. I know it’s not exactly “live” anymore, but director Jasun Mark, production assistant David Richards, and I took a few pics a couple of weeks ago during the latest production run. I’m in a few of them, and so is my good friend Hunter Marx. Nah, we didn’t film another scene together — Titan rarely pairs performers together more than once in an effort to keep things fresh, and we already worked together on Surveillance — but we each got the opportunity to work with the 2012 Grabby Performer of the Year, the one and only Landon Conrad! What a true pro… my scene with him went great. In a “porn imitates life” moment, we portrayed network engineers who were finishing up the wiring in a new office building… which was my first job while I was in college. I can therefore say from experience that we looked pretty convincing. :mrgreen:

Also, my better half Dirk Caber filmed a scene with a new guy named Jay. I never got to meet the sexy southern stud, but Dirk told me he was very handsome, hung like a horse, and had legs like tree trunks. I don’t have any face pictures of him yet, but a couple of the pics that Jasun sent me (the first two pictures posted above) show him from behind… and judging by the photos, Dirk sure seems to like what he sees on the front side as well.

I’ll have more info on all of these scenes soon. And you can expect to see a lot more “live from the set” material from me in the future. Pretty cool, huh? 😎

Poll: Position

I wrote a blog post about topping versus bottoming a while ago, but I want to know what you guys have to say on the matter. I know it depends on the performer, the chemistry, etc… but generally (or, perhaps, “genitally”) speaking, what do you wanna see me do next? Chime in!